In my 48 years of being alive I have met many people. Some good some not
so good. A few have left a lasting impression on the woman I have become.
Some of those few I never even had the chance to meet….an example would be
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Others had a profound positive effect on my
life. My father probably would be the one who had the greatest effect on
my formative years.
However, of all those few the two that have influenced me to the greatest
extent have been my children. I have a daughter who is approaching the age
of 16 and a son who will be 13 in about six months. I know most parents
would say their children are a blessing to them but few would say their
children are their greatest teachers.
My circumstances are a tad unusual from the general population. You see I
have a son who was diagnosed with autism at the age of three. In the early
days of autism it was pure unadulterated hell. The aggressive behaviors
were so bad that after a day of tracking them they counted up to 400! The
meltdowns would last for 3 or 4 hours at a time. Yet through these early
days to the present I have learned many things because of autism. The
biggest lesson has come in the way of patience.
Autistic brains are wired differently so the autistic individual learns
differently. It takes a great deal of repetition for the autistic mind to
comprehend and retain what it is being taught. So every milestone that is
reached is just that much sweeter than the average parent experiences.
Autism does not equal mental retardation in any way. If anything the
individual that experiences autism has well above average intelligence.
Since my children entered my life my perspective on what is important has
changed drastically, which I believe is the case for most parents.
However, again being in unusual circumstances it has changed even more
drastically then the norm.
My daughter has become a young woman with strong moral convictions. She
believes in righting the injustices that she sees on a daily basis. She is
very much the fighter for the underdog and will go to the mat for her
brother or anyone that suffers at the hands of others, whether it be
emotional, psychological or physical abuse. She does not tolerate
discrimination in any of its forms and all these lessons she learned as a
result of having a brother with special needs.
There was a time when I prayed to God every night to take this thing known
as autism away from my son and subsequently my family. Now I thank God
every night for the life he has given me and mine. The lessons learned
would never otherwise have taken place. We are all better people for them.
If you are interested I have written on this topic before on my personal
blog. You can access that blog at: www.debstake.wordpress.com.
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Peace and Prayers,
Deborah A Delp
Proud Mother to:
Samantha (15, My Never Ending Beacon of Light)
JR (12 All Good Things in God’s Time)
E-Mail Me @ vaccines_r_toxic@kuhncom.net
AUTISM IS: Treatable, Improvement is real and Recovery is possible!



